How to Empower Win-Win Carefrontations.

When we see that all relationships are perfectly designed as mirrors to help us see areas where we are blind, or asleep, then we can trust that maintaining deeply intimate and authentic relationship begins when we empower connections of seeking WIN-WIN solutions, through carefrontations, in an effort to see feelings and needs, met and unmet, as the gift that can make life more wonderful.

We’ve all been conditioned to be nice, to not rock the boat and we self-sacrifice our own heart, which never serves love. Relationships don’t end because of needs being met, they end when there are unspoken unmet needs that we’ve not had the skillsets, or trust, to honor what’s alive within us through the art and dance of “carefrontations.”

The single most damaging act that causes feelings of heart separation, divorce, conflict, and war within, is when we recognize an action where we have been hurt by another’s choices and feel that all too familiar “ouch,” or “stick” of it (remember there’s some lie of separation held within separation), but we fear another’s reactions, ultimately, we deny our own heart’s needs, and slowly, brick by brick, the walls of separation create chasms that become cemented into disconnection and pain within relationships.

There is no ‘WIN-WIN’ if we deny our own hearts. Eventually all relationships will implode if we do not trust in our own heart’s connection to our shared needs to know we matter, to be seen, and our loved, beyond conditions.

Living the Language of Compassion means you own your triggers and know that while someone may have been the trigger to your separation story, they are not the cause of your suffering, and separation. When you bravely honor your own heart by sharing what action they choose consciously, or unconsciously, that has caused you an “ouch…” it gives them a time for reflection to also take responsibility for their actions and provides a powerful invitation to forge a trust that all needs matter.

Engaging self-inquiry to innerstand what needs have not been met by another’s actions and trusting that in the divinity of honoring your own heart, you also open the door for a deepening of intimacy, or not, in all of your relationships.

You will quickly learn what relationships are willing to honor your heart and do the work to heal, and which ones are not yet ready (or may never be). If the receiving end is unwilling to open their heart to explore ‘WIN-WIN’ solutions by seeking possibility to discover how to mutually honor one another, then it is time to redefine the role and energetic space that relationship is allowed to hold in your life.

From your heart flows the wellsprings of life… we no longer need to guard our hearts as we empower our heart’s trust and sovereignty that love can only operate in the freedom to choose. Your redefining a relationship just might be the catalyst for their inward journey to the truth and their liberation.

You do not do anyone anyone any favors and actual thwart another’s spiritual growth by denying your own sacred heart. When you honor your heart, you will always be honoring divine love which always serves the highest good for all. Always.