Ending Emotionally Abusive Relationships.

In our conditioned Separation Story, we have all been on the receiving and giving end of the victim/victimizer roles. These toxic relationship cycles are emotionally and spiritual destructive. While not impossible to heal this toxic dynamic, there are critical boundaries one must honor to gain the courage and sovereignty to stand “all in” for self-love and self-honor.

Make no mistake, there is ZERO excuse or reason to stay in any verbally, emotionally, or controlling abusive relationship. No one wins. If children are witnessing these toxic patterns, the story and suffering will repeat. Beyond any doubt, your spiritual evolution is at risk. If you are in the “hotbed” of a toxic relationship, I urge you that this needs your critical TLC presence, and devoted focus. Reach out, we are here to support your heart and your liberation.

The purpose of the spiritual technology of authentic community is the support that will help you see the abuse and develop the courage and strength to leave.

As we addressed in our previous Language of Compassion module, all passive violence is the precursor to physical violence. There is no love in a relationship dynamic that bears the scars of abuse. The tears of your heart empowered to honor love, by ending all acts of violence is the fastest path to your spiritual liberation.

Learning to recognize verbal and emotional abuse takes time, energy, reflection from others who have walked in your shoes, and willful determination with lots of warm healing blankets of self-love and support to cheer you to your freedom.

I am here, and this community is here, to support you in empowering you with the inner self-mastery tools to stand in your full sovereign authority of self-love and self-honor. As you set clean boundaries, you will know within two or three months if your partner, or relationship, has the sincere desire and willingness to do the emotional and spiritual healing required to end the abuse. If there is no authentic and lasting humility, dust the dust off your shows and leave.

The best book on this subject to understand the layers of abuse is by Patricia Evans called The Verbally Abusive Relationship. When I first picked up the book I thought, “this is not me.” Soon, I was able to see that I was in fact in a verbally, emotionally and spiritual devolving relationship. Leaving a toxic relationship is an act of self-love. It takes strength to break these chains of toxic relationships.

Leaving an unhealthy relationship could be the other party’s greatest gift to experience the impact and consequences of their actions. When we choose self-love and compassion to redefine toxic relationships, we begin the journey of awakening to the unborn truth of our divine love, which needs nothing or no one outside of The Beloved Creation love that lives within every cell of your DNA. While all relationships are a gift for healing, you never have to be on the receiving end of an unwilling and unteachable spirit.

All relationships are co-created, so the work is about recognizing and taking responsibility for your own unhealed wounds, not remaining focused on their wounds or actions as the scapegoat of victimhood, which can become a spiritual bypass for your own needs for healing. I know how tempting it is to make the other person wrong, or for your desire for others, including family members, to see their actions and condemn them as wrong. Beware of this trap and distraction. The most difficult relationships are our greatest teachers and sages, so bow in gratitude for the gift that the relationships has given you to see, feel and heal.

Never has there been a time when our own healing and spiritual awakening to our sovereignty and Soul’s divine purpose been more imperative. You are divinity, a power-with force of love, and to know thyself within this divinity is only and always generated from the unstoppable force of love that lives within every cell of your Creation Blueprint.

Let go and let God….