The Process and Practices.

Learning this language is like learning any new language. It can feel awkward and frustrating at first. By trusting the process, you will experience the rewards of connection and deeper intimacy unfolding in your relationship within your own heart, and in the reflection of relationships with others.

So often our communication has an undertone of judgment or demand which is life-alienating and carries implied demands and power-over. While we may get what we think we want, power-over erodes trust and respect, and while someone may outwardly comply, in the space of implied demand creates separation. While the process is actually not difficult to learn, it will require discipline to create “the gap” between your conditioned triggers of relating that we have been conditioned into. You will learn to listen to your own heart and the language of feelings and needs of what’s alive within you, and within another, as you shift your consciousness into deep listening to what the needs might be behind someone that may be in trigger.

It helps as you learn to master this skillset to invite others into your practice by letting them know you are committed to unlearning the unhealthy patterns of relating and that you deeply desire and are choosing to deepen the intimacy and authenticity in your relationships. By letting them know that you want to experience this deepening compassion and love with them, it will become an exciting adventure as you discover that there is a genuine flow of expansion as you deepen your trust that our feelings and needs are the gift that make us human. And that we are wired to genuinely want to contribute to another without condition when we feel safe and trust that we are in a mutually supportive relationship.

In time, this new inner language will become infused as your own nature. Every relationship exchange offers you the opportunity to become confident and agile at integrating this life-changing powerful love language into your life, which in the truest of senses is a spiritual practice that experientially makes every facet of your life and your relationships more wonderful.
I cannot overemphasize the mastery and blessing of showing up fully in the presence of your relationships, within yourself, and with those that you choose to live deeply connected to. Soon you will experience that all relationships a reflection to witness that our mutual needs for self-love, self-honor and connection liberates the heart.

Through the Language of Compassion process of interacting with others, you begin to have a much deeper understanding of who you are. This process collapses the rigid life-negating process where most of us defined our identity during adolescence by trying to deduce, through comparison of “what I am” and “what I am not,” “need” or “don’t need” to be loved. This connection process takes you from the finite beliefs of limitation in your mind’s conditioning moves you into living from the truth and possibility that is unborn and infinite within your heart.

The more you trust in the experience of expressing and owning your inner feelings and needs to share what’s alive within you, the more you will come to respect and appreciate the needs of others. Empowering others to honor their needs yields thriving relationships that are energetically authentic (truthful) which vibrate at the highest potency, which creates treasured moments of deep connection. Even with people you may have previously had difficulty connecting with, an honest attempt to hear their anger or unmet needs, by “empathically receiving,” their needs without judgment, or taking them personally, most oftentimes energetically shifts the connection between you. You will actually feel their internal emotional-transfer before another word is said. Feelings of animosity, grudges, and pain creating separation between you will ease into a more accessible trust because you will know that you can always return to heart connection to seek ways to diffuse conflicting needs that create feelings of separation.

The Language of Compassion can heal the damage and deeply rooted mistrust that has been created by living in such power-over paradigms, even when the separation has been rooted for decades, even when centuries of misguided false beliefs have caused separation stories between hearts. A single moment of heart connection to our common needs possesses the power to melt away years, decades, and even millenniums of division. Un-forgiveness, pain, suffering, hatred, judgments, withdrawal and false beliefs have blinded us to the truth of who we are. While our needs for autonomy, freedom, and our intrinsic need to learn, create, and express is what makes you uniquely you, your connection to our universal common needs to live in peace, freewill choice, sovereignty and mutual respect to know that all needs matter, builds the safety and trust necessary to bridge and The Language of Compassion weaves the threads of diversity together so we can all experience life in a way that makes it more wonderful. When you seek what unites you, rather than stay locked into patterns of relating that divides you, your connection to the living energy of love and compassion that comprises our universal connection to the language of needs that flow within all relationships will never be the same.