Jack Canfield―Are You Burying Your Anger?

Jack brings to light the truth that we have a choice over our feelings. During a fight with a friend, partner, or family member, and the phone rings and it’s your boss or someone else you need to pick up the call for, we all know how quickly we can stop the heat of that feeling and emotion, and “fight,” to answer the phone, if needed. This is a conscious choicepoint.

Moving into conscious relationship within ourselves is the first step to authentic relationship. Once we are aware of what’s behind the anger, then we can engage with others we are in relationship with. This is being intentional. Your sovereignty and love is about trusting your heart and speaking to what is alive within you.

One aspect of anger is that it comes up within us as a result of having an expectation or unmet need with an individual or a situation that is not being met. Another may be that anger is pointing to a deep unhealed wound within me about not feeling or trusting that my needs matter, or perhaps you were punished for your healthy anger as a child. This fear-busting antidote begins by learning to create “the gap” between your stimulus (the situation) and your response. Your power and potency to be in authentic relationship begins within you. This choicepoint to choose love, over anger or fear-based reactions again begins within the kingdom of your own world. The only heart and emotional domain and url you have control over is your own.

We’ve been taught that anger is wrong, unacceptable, blah, blah. Feelings buried alive never die… it is mission critical to setting yourself free to honor and speak to what’s alive within you. This self-mastery tool alone will uplevel your inner peace, trust and expand love in all relationships.

There are powerful self-mastery tools in The Truth, The Journey Within film and expanded message for humanity that we will be sharing with you very soon!

Removing the expectation is one step you can take to remove your own internal reaction. And yet, creating “the gap,” and installing powerful new self-mastery tools in your inner world begins the direct path to upleveling your own relationship, which then naturally builds authentic relationships, where you can open your heart to trust that your needs, and that all needs matter. Your emotions are powerful gifts that point you to what you are ignoring in yourself, or within the relationship.

With Jack’s wisdom of sharing about a daughter coming home after drinking, remember, it is “my” worry, then “my” anger, then “my” story about what someone may or may not choose that is the piviotal choicepoint within “my” heart’s domain that I have the choice to choose love which will regenerate me, or stay locked into fear-based “what if” stories that always will drain me (and my relationships). The next upleveling in the relationship if someone acts in a behavior that does not meet your needs for trust, safety, and support within relationship is to create healthy boundaries, and if necessary, speak to the consequences of how you both can choose to deal with their choice.

While it is tempting and the way most of us were conditioned, power-over never heals or serves love. In fact, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, whose wisdom shares, In the space of demand, healthy human beings will generally respond in a state of resistance. This is natural as it protects our deep needs for autonomy and freedom to choose love. The gift of our freewill and direct path to sovereignty and love.

Fear-Busting Antidote #1: You have the power within you to reclaim the domain of your heart’s trust to see that anger is a powerful emotion, and potent gift, that once we are aware of what’s alive within us, we then have a powerful choicepoint to choose love, over fear, and uplevel our relationship to ourselves and with our loved ones.

Beloved, within you is everything you need to sleigh the serpent mind and the conditioned stories we’ve all suffered from living within the lies of separation. May the truth set us all free!